“Nature gives you the face you have at twenty; it is up to you to merit the face you have at fifty” – Coco Chanel
It happens to the best of us, if we are lucky, we age. In our society, it’s almost a crime to age, and I agree! Here’s why – most women today do not know how to age gracefully!
OMG, if I see one more selfie of a fifty something woman dressed like a sex kitten, pouting and looking seductively into the lens as if she were still twenty, I am going to barf. It’s not sexy people, it’s sad! We’re so busy clinging to any remnants of youth, we totally miss the confidence and natural sexiness that comes only through experience. We should be celebrating our 40’s, and 50’s! After all, we earned that experience!
Unfortunately, there is precious little role modeling for us to base aging gracefully on. The fashion world certainly doesn’t perpetuate it, Hollywood is infamous for turning actors out to pasture by 40, and the media constantly bombards us with youth, youth, youth (apart from those ridiculous commercials for erectile disfunction associating age with the potentially embarrassing). It”s time we step into our power, and own it!
I’m not saying become a cute little old lady before your time, I’m just saying learn how to accentuate the face, body, and mind you have today. Here are my top five tips to start you off:
1). Subscribe to the Andy Warhol school of thought – STOP lying about your age! I’m in my fifties, so why would I lie and say I’m in my thirties or forties? I’d much rather they think “wow, she’s taken good care of herself”, than have them secretly think, “OMG, the poor dear looks dreadful!” Denying your age subliminally propagates being uncomfortable with it. I believe the first step to owning your full sexiness at any age is in accepting who you are right now, today.
2). DO take care of yourself. Sure, good genes play a part, but aging well is no accident. Part of owning your age means learning to adjust your lifestyle accordingly, since our bodies won’t rejuvenate as easily as we age. That means attention to a healthy diet, staying hydrated (6-8 cups of water per day), exercise, and putting fewer toxins into our systems. I stopped drinking and smoking altogether years ago, and I do think it makes an enormous difference.
3). Body image is a big one for me. I’ll be honest, I miss being sample size and all the gorgeous clothes that came along with being that skinny, but I’m no longer willing to exist miserably on three lettuce leaves a day to stay that way. Let’s face it, for most of us metabolism slows once we hit forty, and we have to chose between a skinny ass, or a face that has aged well. If I lived the way I used to, I’d be a wrinkled old prune by now. Instead, I strive to embrace my curves. Learning how to dress to accentuate the good bits, and play down the less appealing ones is essential at any age.
4). I do believe in embellishments within moderation. There is nothing wrong in wanting to look your best, but there is a difference between being your best you, and trying to be someone you no longer are. Covering the gray hair takes 10 years off immediately, so I’m all for it. I’m not a fan of an expressionless face, or an artificially plump one from too many fillers, however many of my friends swear by Botox and fillers. Strive to keep it natural looking and take care not overdo it. The same goes for the cosmetic tweak here and there – less is more! I do know people that have and have done it to perfection. Unfortunately, I know more people who have done too much and lived to regret it.
5). Be ware of mutton dressed as lamb. Sadly, there does come a time to retire the mini skirts and plunging necklines. I don’t believe it’s a case of “you can’t wear this over 40” or “if you wore it when it was first in fashion, you’re too old to wear it this time around,” because we all age at a different pace. My legs are still one of my strongest assets, so you may still find me in a short skirt, but you will also most likely find my legs covered in opaque tights. Sadly, more than our faces drop with age. Sagging knees or a wrinkly décolletage are not going to do you any favors, so do take an honestly critical look in the mirror. Does your wardrobe need updating?
That’s my five cents worth on aging. I also intend to consult stylists, fashion designers, hair and makeup professionals, and lifestyle coaches throughout the year for their take on aging gracefully for further insights, so stay tuned. In the meantime, munch on my secret weight-loss weapon soup packed full of protein, fiber, and nutrients to keep you happy, satiated, and looking your very best.
Weight-Loss Weapon Chicken & Veg Soup
This is my top secret weight loss weapon – the chicken vegetable soup I lived on for years as a model. It’s low fat, chocked full of yummy vegetables and chicken, and certainly satiating. My own private diet rescue remedy.
PS. What tips do you have for aging gracefully?
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