I know this may sound strange, because I had absolutely nothing to do it, but I was so proud to watch my old partner in well, you know…. John Taylor presented with the 2013 Writers in Treatment Experience, Strength, & Hope Award for “demonstrating character, courage and creativity in recovery” last Friday night. In JT’s recently released book, In the Pleasure Groove – Love, Death, & Duran Duran, he shares much more than the usual drugs, sex, rock and roll memoir the public devours with an insatiable appetite.
Yes, there is the obligatory behind the scenes account of Duran Duran’s rise to stardom,“the highs of hanging out with icons like Bowie, Warhol, and even James Bond; dating Vogue models; and driving fast cars.” I’ll never forget being terrified my water would break in John’s brand new 250K (at the time about $500,000.00 US) Aston Martin when he insisted on taking me for a test spin while heavily pregnant with Tatjana – but then we both shared a love of fast cars, and he’s a big softy around pregnant women. When I voiced my concern he said, “ah, it’s just a car.” Yeah, one I knew he’d longed for since childhood, waited almost two years for it to be hand built, and turned down offers of double his investment for his place in the queue for the limited edition of only 200 made.
That is not why John was honored with this award – it was his willingness to also candidly share his battle with substance abuse, how his addiction nearly destroyed him, and how he found his way back to sobriety – hopefully giving hope to those who are still out there struggling with the disease of addiction. Who better than longtime friend Robert Downey Jr., who fought his own very public battle with the disease and conquered his demons too, to present John with his award?
The evening took place at the nearly impossible to find (and 1 1/2 hours in rush hour traffic from Hollywood), yet beautiful once you do – Skirball Center. Actor Ed Begley Jr. was master of ceremony over the event which also boasted an acoustic performance by singer Davina, and a roll-on-the-floor-laugh-your-guts-out stand up performance by comedian Bobcat Goldthwait who referred to his current wife throughout the routine as “09.” I couldn’t wait to thank him afterwards for the laughs that had felt so good, and to meet the infamous “09.”
Now Robert Downey Jr. is no slouch in the humor department either, and a hard act to follow, but John killed it with his own hilarious references to my ex, a touching thanks to his gorgeous wife, Gela, Some Like it Hot’s Michael DesBarres, and Sex Pistol Steve Jones (all in attendance). He also humbly admitted that this award, and what it represents, means every bit as much to him as his Grammy’s.
The evening was all the more poignant to me, because I too have stayed sober one day at a time for the past 15 years, and I got to attend the event with my “sober family” who both gave me prior permission to break their anonymity. My sobriety sister, writer Sheri Sussman, and my sponsor Julia Negron.
When I finally found my way into the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous I was on my knees, writhing in pain, with a heart and self-worth (and ego) shattered into a million little shards. The women in my home group loved me until I could love myself again, and Julia showed me by example how to work the 12 steps, and weather life’s challenges as a sober woman with dignity. I thought the fun was over when I first got sober, but then I learned it hadn’t even started yet!
I am honored to be in this years New PATH (Parents for Addiction Treatment and Healing) calendar. A New PATH is a non-profit advocacy organization of parents, concerned citizens, individuals in recovery, healthcare professionals and community leaders working together to educate the public, media and decision makers about the true nature of the disease of addiction, and to expand access to treatment services. They advocate to end discriminatory drug policies that serve as roadblocks to recovery. You can buy a copy of the calendar here, and know that your money will help make a difference!
My life today is still filled with giggles – like when Sheri acutely pointed out that many of us in the room that evening may have thought we were high enough to touch the moon, but attendee and previous Experience, Strength, and Hope winner, “Buzz Aldrin actually walked on it!”
You can buy JT’s book, In The Pleasure Groove here, but he shot me a wink as he left, and asked his assistant to give me a copy (in his haste he forgot to sign it, sorry) for a giveaway. Entries are due by noon PST on my birthday, March 9, 2013, and will be verified. Any entries not in accordance with rules guidelines will be disqualified.
2). Earn a second entry by JOINING the Personal Chef Approach™. For existing members, just mention it on your entry email. Joining does not guarantee you will when the book (so do so only if you genuinely want to simplify dinner and your life). You will be entered to win.
3). You can earn another entry if you post about the give-away on your Twitter or Facebook status. Better still, feel free to blog away about it!
4). You must send one email listing all of your entries to info (at ) personalchefapproach (dot) com no later then noon PST on March 9, 2013 to qualify. All entries will be verified, and any that do not meet the rules and guidelines will be disqualified. By entering the The Sobriety Pleasure Groove Giveaway you are accepting that you have read and agree to comply with the give-away rules.