I reluctantly wrote this post months ago, but the problem seems to be rearing it’s ugly head again, so I decided to go ahead and post it now. You know I don’t like dwelling on the negative, but I wish some people would remember that harboring resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other guy to die. Jealousy just begets the same poison injected straight into the vein.
Normally I refuse to dignify this behavior by responding, but I feel some boundaries are in need of enforcing. I received a nasty comment towards someone that writes great guest blog posts for me, simply for being a Duran Duran fan, so what? Belittling someone talented and brave enough to submit articles is so unbecoming. It goes without saying that I moderated that remark straight into the trash. GET OVER IT! Or better still, step up to the plate and prove you can write equally as well.
Anyone can submit posts here, regardless of race, color, creed or band affiliation. In fact, I welcome it. All you have to do is choose a subject pertinent to the blog, and write something interesting, with pictures, edited well enough to post, and send it to guestblogforjewels at gmail dot com. Please be sure to send only your own original material. We do reserve the right to choose what we publish, and to make any editorial changes we feel necessary. Submitting is not a guarantee of and/or when it will be posted. If we post your piece, we are more than happy to link back to your blog providing you send the corresponding links with your submission.
Another woman insists on writing vile things about my ex husband’s new girlfriend on my facebook page (I delete those too). NEWS FLASH: he is not your husband, and he hasn’t been mine for twenty years! Why should either of us care who he dates? The fact my daughter speaks highly of her, and Nick has been all sweetness and light since she entered his life makes her score high in my book! Trust me, a happy ex husband is way better than a grumpy one when you share a daughter in common.
The vast majority of Duran Duran fans are some of the coolest, kindest, funniest people I’ve ever met, and I am truly grateful for your support. I have certainly received my share of unfounded and misguided remarks, too. Yes, that includes Andy Taylor, although I was more amused than insulted by his book. We each have our own perspectives. It doesn’t change my reality unless I let it, but it has obviously upset theirs.
Another disgruntled woman recently vented her anger on my wall over Nick’s oversight in not welcoming her backstage after a gig, then called him a liar, because his security people told her he had to leave straight after the show. He did, it was the weekend of Mark Ronson’s wedding in France, but regardless – what makes people think that public figures owe them more than the performance rendered for the ticket they purchased?
Where does all this entitlement come from? I can’t believe how many emails I get from incensed people complaining they went to a bandmembers’ house, and were refused an autograph or face time. First, I am an EX wife – I don’t know why you think I can help, but I will share some insight with you.
Say you were a doctor, how would you like it if I showed up on your doorstep, uninvited, after office hours, demanding you discuss my medical care? Beyond how disrespectful that is to you professionally, what about your family whose time I would also be imposing on? Do you really believe you deserve that precious little personal time he or she has more than their own child? Life in the fishbowl is not always as charmed as you may think. No one wants or should be expected to be “on duty” 24/7. Put yourself in their shoes, and show a little of the respect you would like in return. You’re much more likely to get your smiling photo with them then.
Here’s a great way to let go of your resentments and jealousies – celebrate your similarities with that person, instead of focusing on your differences. Let their talents and strengths inspire yours, rather than make you feel “less than.” You will be vastly happier, and it makes life so much more pleasant for everyone around you. Still can’t let it go? Enjoy your poison, but please keep your venenmous remarks about my daughter’s father, his friends and fans, off of my blog and facebook page. No one here wants to read it.
PS. I have a burning question – what do people do with SO many autographs and photos of their idols?